By Priscilla Wainwright, Ph.D, CPC
An empowered woman takes nothing for granted and leaves nothing to chance. She's not obsessive-compulsive; rather, she's intentional about the things that matter in her life. She takes herself seriously, including how she presents to the world.
For us women, style and empowerment go hand in hand. Right or wrong, we are judged in large measure according to our appearance. It's also true that we dress more for other women than for men. Most of us have been trained to capitalize upon our appearance and use it to advantage.
But "style" is for more than appearance. It also includes our behavior, our demeanor, and how we relate to others. These outer aspects reflect our inner attitude and beliefs as well. If we are truly authentic, these all will be congruent, in line with each other. If they are not, then, there is some phoniness going on, and this sooner or later will be detected. But authenticity is a topic for future blogs. Now back to the topic at hand.
How we dress, then, is just the tip of the iceberg. Yet, how we dress both affects and reflects our self esteem.
That said, where do scarves come into the picture?
It starts where our day starts - in the mirror! When you look good, don't you just feel better? There's more bounce in your step, more energy, and a better feeling about yourself. And in subtle ways, all this comes across to others as we interact during the day. As a result, others respond to us more positively, which reinforces our good feelings of worth.
All this contributes to that vital "first impression" that sets the stage for the level of respect and type of treatment we receive from others at the outset.
So...our appearance tells others - rightly or wrongly - what we think of ourselves and what level of consideration (we think) we deserve.
Enter scarves. Scarves add pizazz to an outfit. They "dress up" an otherwise plain attire. Toss on a sweatshirt. Add a scarf. Now you've totally changed the look. Add a scarf to a fancier outfit. Now you've added a certain panache that really makes your presentation stand out.
Scarves, as well as jewelry and accessories, tell the world that you not only care about how you look, but that you also take yourself seriously. They suggest that you pay attention to detail and go the extra mile to do things right.
Why is that especially true for scarves?
Because scarves are an add-on. To wear a scarf, you need to take extra time and give more thought to the overall look, And, let's face it. They make you more attractive to others and to yourself. Sometimes it takes me longer to don a scarf than to put on my make-up. But I know that, when I set foot outside my door, I'm going to look impeccable. And when I do, I just feel more radiant.
Granted, all these impressions in the observer are mostly subconscious. That just make these impressions all the more powerful.
To the degree that scarves, or any other accessories, make you feel better about how you look, they give you a better feeling about yourself and give you that much more energy.
More energy can lead to more confidence and a boost in self-esteem - if you let it!
Empowerment - first and foremost - is about believing in yourself, your gifts and talents, and your inherent worth, being authentic and acting toward others as if you deserve respect and own the space you're in. For women, add loving being female, with all the glory that attends to it. All the rest follows.
A woman who is truly empowered doesn't come off to others as a haughty snob. Far from it! She presents with friendliness, caring, confidence, and radiance - in short, Glory!
Voila! There you have it. Scarves > Style > Glory!
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