By:
Priscilla A. Wainwright, Ph.D., CPC
As we move on to the fourth
Power Source, we shift gears somewhat.
The Big Three – Emotion, Intuition, and Empathy aid in your success
effecting Source 4.
4.
CONNECTION
“You alone can do it, but you can’t do it alone.” I don’t know who uttered these words of
wisdom, but they are so true. All
success is social.
Male “power” is typically Vertical: Top-down.
Female “power” on the other hand is Horizontal: hand in hand, mutual, granted by your
involvement in the Collective Field.
In short, your power is enhanced through the support of
other women (and men, too).
We women are built for connection. Ever notice that we can’t go to the Ladies’
Room without a support group? While
guys are more competitive and individualistic, we, as a whole, are more
connected and cooperative. When we girls
are stressed, nothing calms our nerves more than “venting” to our girlfriends. Oxytocin, Dopamine and other “feel good”
hormones are actually secreted in the female brain when we start talking. Talking reduces female stress; sex and
shutting down reduce male stress. Go
figure.
There are 3 important levels of connection. The first, of course, is colleagues or
associates. These are your business or
social network connections. These may
be co-workers, business, professional, or association-member contacts. Often these are what I call “instrumental
relationships”, or connections that exist for personal or mutual gain.
The second level is Girlfriends. These friendships may be life-long or
recently formed. The nature, meaning,
and depth of the relationship varies with who the other person is. (Some
Guy-Girl friendships may fit in this category as well.)
On the whole, though, your Girlfriends are your
cheerleaders. These are “feel good”
friendships. Mostly, your Girlfriends
will do things with you, hang out with you, be shopping buddies. They exult with your highs, listen to your
lows and encourage you. Mostly, they
will tell you what you want to hear.
The greatest benefit and blessing comes from Level 3,
Synergistic Partnerships. Synergistic
Partners are very likely to be very few in number. They’re the curmudgeons in your life. They’ll hold up the mirror. They always tell you the truth even if it
hurts. They’re honest, forthright, and
authentic with you. That’s because
they love you. Hopefully, you do
likewise with them. That’s where the
“synergistic” comes from.
Girlfriends help you feel good. Synergistic partners help you grow!
Sometimes Synergistic Partnerships grow naturally out of
long-term girl friendships. More often,
they come via invitation. You have a special
friend who is very forthright, speaks her truth, and isn’t afraid to confront
you. Such a person is your best
choice.
How do you go about creating synergistic
partnerships? That is all covered in
my Blog post Girlfriends….And More, Part 2, which is saved in
my blog cue. See below.
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