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By: Priscilla A. Wainwright, Ph.D., CPC
As
you begin your transformation in Journey of a Lifetime, there are 4
“P’s” to keep in mind. Continual
attention to these will help you stay not only focused, but also sane and
successful. Ignore them at your peril!
1.
PLANNING
You wouldn’t go on vacation without prior planning, right? Reservations, a packing list,
sights to
see, etc.
Well, this journey is no different.
So many women have great intentions, only to fail because they rely on
Dumb Ass Magical Thinking: Somehow,
it’ll all fall in place and happen by itself, it won’t! You need to put the proper structures in
place.
First, draw the map! Where are
you going? What stops do you need to
make on the way? In what order?
If you identified specific resources and/or support in the 6 Questions,
how and when will you acquire them?
Spell all this out. Be careful
to include everything you can think of, and revisit your list.
Does this sound like a Business or Marketing Plan? Well, it is, after a fashion.
While the exercise of answering last post’s 6 Questions is a form of
planning, it in itself is not complete.
You need to add the logistical component in order to be truly effective.
2.
PERSISTENCE
Keep at it. Peg away daily. Do at
last one relevant, necessary activity every day,
Monday through
Friday, in the service of your cause.
Commit yourself to this. It may
take time to see results. You don’t
want to lose drive in the process.
Slack up here and you could lose momentum, which is a critical emotional
and behavioral component of your ultimate success. Slacking can often lead to sloppiness,
discouragement, and inconsistency of effort.
If your dream is really important to you, you want to keep Motivation
and Momentum high.
3.
PATIENCE
At first blush, this may
sound like the opposite of Persistence.
Far from it, Patience is
Persistence’s
handmaiden!
Rome wasn’t built in a day. One of my coaches told me when I was getting
overwhelmed, “It’s like farming. You sew daily seeds, but growth and harvest take time. Farmers can’t force or speed the natural
growth process”.
That advice gave me a helpful
longitudinal perspective. I was getting
impatient, and that led to struggling.
I had, as so many women do, pushed myself too hard, and was getting
burned out.
We women tend to be hard on
ourselves. We beat ourselves up if we
aren’t constantly pushing or doing.
By being deliberately patient (yet
persistent) we give ourselves breathing space.
We allow time for our own development and refreshment along the way.
Patience, then, actually helps us
stay fresh, sharp, and focused.
If you need to work at being
patient, either at how you pace yourself, or when it comes to expecting
results, do so. The proper blend of
Patience and Persistence is a life-saver!
4.
PLEASURE
Make your dream fun! Find ways to make a game out of onerous
tasks that you can’t
delegate. Keep your passion by making the journey
joyful.
Infuse some play into your daily
activity if you can, or at least give yourself some pleasure time each day. We all need some R&R, especially if
we’re working hard.
Also, keep that exciting vision of
the final outcome before your eyes daily.
That will help bring excitement back into your enterprise and will help
keep drive alive.
If your work becomes daily drudgery,
you’ll eventually get overwhelmed, burned out and give up.
Your dream is supposed to be joyous,
especially to you, it’s mother.
So, Mom…..find (or create) Joy in
the Journey!
Go for it, Tigress!
Rise Up and ROAR!
©
2014….Copyright by Priscilla A. Wainwright, Ph.D., CPC
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