Friday, March 7, 2014

FIND AND FULFILL YOUR DESTINY - Part 3: The 4 "P"s To Starting The Journey


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By:   Priscilla A. Wainwright, Ph.D., CPC


            As  you begin your transformation in Journey of a Lifetime, there are 4 “P’s” to keep in mind.   Continual attention to these will help you stay not only focused, but also sane and successful.  Ignore them at your peril!

1.     PLANNING

You wouldn’t go on vacation without prior planning, right?   Reservations, a packing list,
sights to see, etc.

Well, this journey is no different.

So many women have great intentions, only to fail because they rely on Dumb Ass Magical Thinking:  Somehow, it’ll all fall in place and happen by itself, it won’t!   You need to put the proper structures in place.

First, draw the map!   Where are you going?   What stops do you need to make on the way?   In what order?

If you identified specific resources and/or support in the 6 Questions, how and when will you acquire them?   Spell all this out.   Be careful to include everything you can think of, and revisit your list.

Does this sound like a Business or Marketing Plan?   Well, it is, after a fashion.

While the exercise of answering last post’s 6 Questions is a form of planning, it in itself is not complete.   You need to add the logistical component in order to be truly effective.

2.     PERSISTENCE

      Keep at it.   Peg away daily.   Do  at last one relevant, necessary activity every day,
Monday through Friday, in the service of your cause.   Commit yourself to this.   It may take time to see results.   You don’t want to lose drive in the process.

Slack up here and you could lose momentum, which is a critical emotional and behavioral component of your ultimate success.   Slacking can often lead to sloppiness, discouragement, and inconsistency of effort.   If your dream is really important to you, you want to keep Motivation and Momentum high.

3.     PATIENCE

     At first blush, this may sound like the opposite of Persistence.   Far from it, Patience is
Persistence’s handmaiden!

     Rome wasn’t built in a day.   One of my coaches told me when I was getting overwhelmed, “It’s like farming.   You sew daily seeds, but growth and harvest take time.   Farmers can’t force or speed the natural growth process”.

         That advice gave me a helpful longitudinal perspective.   I was getting impatient, and that led to struggling.   I had, as so many women do, pushed myself too hard, and was getting burned out.

          We women tend to be hard on ourselves.   We beat ourselves up if we aren’t constantly pushing or doing.

          By being deliberately patient (yet persistent) we give ourselves breathing space.  We allow time for our own development and refreshment along the way.

            Patience, then, actually helps us stay fresh, sharp, and focused.

            If you need to work at being patient, either at how you pace yourself, or when it comes to expecting results, do so.    The proper blend of Patience and Persistence is a life-saver!

4.     PLEASURE

      Make your dream fun!   Find ways to make a game out of onerous tasks that you can’t
delegate.   Keep your passion by making the journey joyful.

       Infuse some play into your daily activity if you can, or at least give yourself some pleasure time each day.    We all need some R&R, especially if we’re working hard.

          Also, keep that exciting vision of the final outcome before your eyes daily.   That will help bring excitement back into your enterprise and will help keep drive alive.

          If your work becomes daily drudgery, you’ll eventually get overwhelmed, burned out and give up.

            Your dream is supposed to be joyous, especially to you, it’s mother.

            So, Mom…..find (or create) Joy in the Journey!

            Go for it, Tigress!

            Rise Up and ROAR!

© 2014….Copyright by Priscilla A. Wainwright, Ph.D., CPC

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